Saturday 29 October 2011

Dale Carnegie's principles (Notes from "How to Win Friends ...")

Handling People.

Don't criticize, condemn or complain.

Give honest and sincere approbation.

Arouse in the other person an eager want.


Make People Like You.

Become genuinely interested in people.

Smile.

Remember that a person's name is to that person the sweetest and most important sound in any language.

Be a good listener. Encourage others to talk about themselves.

Talk in terms of the other person's interests.

Make the other person feel important - and do it sincerely.


Win Them to Your Way of Thinking.

The only way to get the best of an argument is to avoid it.

Show respect for other people's opinions. Never say, "You're wrong."

If you are wrong, admit is quickly and emphatically.

Begin in a friendly way.

Get the other person saying "yes, yes" immediately.

Let the other person do a great deal of the talking.

Let the other person feel that the idea is his or hers.

Try honestly to see things from the other person's point of view.

Be sympathetic with the other person's ideas and desires.

Appeal to the nobler motives.

Dramatize your ideas.

Throw down a challenge.


Leadership.

Begin with praise and honest appreciation.

Call attention to people's mistakes indirectly.

Talk about your own mistakes before criticising the other person.

Ask questions instead of giving direct orders.

Let the other person save face.

Praise the slightest improvement and praise every improvement. Be hearty in your approbation and lavish in your praise.

Give the other person a fine reputation to live up to.

Use encouragement. Make the fault seem easy to correct.

Make the other person happy about doing the thing you suggest.

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